Beyond “Just Do It”…What Women’s Sexuality Really Means!
Katherine Forsythe
It was a dark and stormy night. The fire was blazing in the fireplace. Only the flickering flames lit the room. We lay together on the deep fur of the bear rug, near enough to feel the calming warmth of the fire radiating through our bodies.
He held me close. I could feel the gentle in and out of his breath, coming faster. I rolled onto my back, waiting…
by Katherine Forsythe, MSW
Intimacy, Sexuality, and Relationship Counselor
Ok, stop the cameras! That was cliché heaven. Scenarios like this are the stuff that romance novels are made of. It’s not a bad thing, it’s just not real life.
If Hollywood had Its Way
We sell ourselves short when we see the physical act of sex as the primary expression of who we are as sexual beings. If Hollywood had its way, being sexy as a woman would be all about, well, sex.
Not so. Physical intimacy is only one portion of our sexuality.
There’s Alot More to Sexuality than “Just Do It!”
This month, we start a series about the elements of our sexuality as women. There are 6 major ingredients. They’re all part of my Wheel of Sexuality.
The term sexuality is an umbrella term over all the ways we see ourselves and express ourselves as women.
Every woman is unique in her articulation of her womanhood. It’s important to recognize the ingredients , the wedges of the sexuality wheel, so that we can honor and celebrate all of it.
6 Elements of Sexuality
#1 is Life Wisdom. All that life has taught us about how we should act as women. Both positive and negative forces come into play.
#2 is Intimacy. Our connectedness to other human beings is critical. It’s our need to be close. This may or may not include physical sex. Deep friendships can provide intimacy.
#3 is Sensuality. All 5 of our senses help us celebrate who we are as women. Touch is only one of them. Sensory deprivation is a major cause of depression.
#4 is Physical Sexuality. Revisit the opening paragraph for this one.
#5 is Reproductive Health. Our reproductive organs require much of our attention. Our experience of the medical system influences how we define ourselves as women.
#6 is Sexual Identity. We see ourselves as heterosexual, homosexual, bi-sexual, trans-sexual. The expression of our orientation speaks mountains about how we present ourselves as women.
Each month, we will explore a different wedge of the wheel. In the meantime, enjoy the bear rug fantasy, but own the rest of your sexuality as well. It’s a gift for us to enjoy!
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Category: Sex & Love
About the Author (Author Profile)
Katherine A. Forsythe, MSW is an expert in human sexuality, intimacy, and relationships. Her passion is to invigorate sexuality and intimacy. She work with clients privately – both in her office and by phone, presents keynotes, provides workshops, and appears regularly on radio and television. Her new book: Sexperienced: Guide for the Seasoned Woman Seeking New Possibilities will be released in April.
To learn more please visit her website, GetaSecondWind.com. If you have a question or would like to contact Katherine send her an e-mail or call her at (415) 702-9544. All inquires are strictly confidential! Be sure to mention the SF Bay Area Woman’s Journal, and receive 25% discount on your first session!
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