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Improve Your Sex Life with Hypnotherapy

It no longer surprises me when a regular hypnotherapy client suddenly confides that she suffers from sexual issues. Typically this comes up after we have worked together for some time and solved other problems using hypnosis.

byJane Ransom, Certified Hypnotherapist

You’re Not Alone

This year my client Jade broached the issue, and the first thing I did was tell her she’s not alone. About 40% of women experience sexual dysfunction at some point in their lives, ranging from a simple difficulty of moistening, to an inability to climax. And generally, it’s all quite solvable with hypnosis, as our most powerful sexual organ is the brain!

Most sexual problems stem from inhibitions originally implanted by the client’s cultural or religious upbringing, or by negative personal experience. The client and I discuss her issue while she is in the cognitive state (i.e., before undergoing hypnosis), and I encourage her to tell me only information which she feels comfortable sharing.

It’s always important to protect clients’ boundaries, and especially so when dealing with a subject as private as sexuality.

Respecting Client Boundaries

The core of the treatment then consists of suggestions given during the hypnotic state. While my suggestions remain appropriate and respectful (never graphic), clients do vary as to what exactly will work for them. Therefore, our path to discovery usually involves some trial and error.

This was the case with Jade. In her forties, she has always been orgasmic when receiving oral sex, but during her first marriage ten years ago had lost the ability to climax during intercourse. She’d had a favorite strategy of being on top, until her then-husband complained he was bored with the position. He added: “Come on, you don’t really have orgasms anyway.”

Tragically, her subconscious mind accepted his cruel false words as truth, and she stopped being able to climax during coitus, even long after the marriage had ended, and she had met much nicer men.

Using Recall

We began Jade’s treatment by putting her under hypnosis and having her recall, silently and within the privacy of her own mind, her successful sexual experiences more than a decade earlier. I asked her to remember both physical sensations and emotions, indeed her complete physiological state. I suggested that her subconscious mind now re-memorize the experience in order to recreate the orgasmic state during actual sex with her current boyfriend.

Over the next week, she reported “getting much closer,” but her impatience was growing until the third session, when she declared: “Every time Alan and I are making love, I’m almost there, right on the edge, but then I start thinking about what we’re doing—and it’s gone!” That was exactly the clue we needed. Just as so often occurs in sports, her conscious mind—her thinking—was getting in the way.

Get in the Zone

The trick was to let her subconscious mind take over, exactly as it does for athletes when they’re “in the zone.” I knew Jade was a good skier, so after putting her into hypnosis, I suggested that she would remember to do during sex what she does while skiing—that is, to relinquish conscious control and trust her subconscious mind to guide the process to lead her to success. Next time I saw her, Jade was glowing with that success!
Jane Ransom, MA, C.Ht., conducts hypnotherapy sessions in her downtown San Francisco office, as well as by phone and online web-cam. She helps clients with a multitude of health issues, including weight loss, chronic pain and smoking cessation, and she also leads clients to achieve career, sports and artistic success.

As a public speaker, Jane offers talks and workshops on how to boost self-confidence and motivation, improve relationships and invite inspiration. For more information, please visit Jane’s website, HypnotherapyThatWorks.

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